You know your right! Your spouse just isn’t listening! Why can’t they see your point of view? Well it doesn’t matter, you know your right and you are not planning to let up! When they plan on admitting that they are wrong, that’s when the fight will be over. Ever encountered this situation? Chances are you have and you will find yourself in this situation time and time again and it will be your undoing.
Why must I let go or turn the cheek when I know that I am right? I am not just going to give on an argument and let the other person think that they are right when there wrong!
Too common is this argument; it normally leads to nothing positive a fleeting sense of “victory” to the supposed “winner” of the argument. We often lose sight of what we are arguing about. We spend so much time attempting to “win” the argument that we lose ourselves in the argument. Usually when a person is arguing with a spouse, the spouse (as well as yourselves) knows what to say to hurt and draw you away from the original topic. With this plot in mind, it causes us to act emotionally and irrationally rather than logically. When this happens, we stop trying to listen, understand, and compromise; instead we try to hurt, or win the argument in away that is possible.
Be aware of what you are saying and how you are saying. Think about why you are saying these things, and are they going to ultimate lead to the resolution, or solution of the argument? Or is this next “point” that you intend to make going to create a greater rift between you and your loved one?
